Istikharah for Marriage
| Fatwa #582 | Category: Marriage & Divorce | Country: Zambia | Date: 11th November 2020 |
| Fatwa #582 | Date: 11th November 2020 |
| Category: Marriage & Divorce | |
| Country: Zambia | |
Question
Assalam o Alaikum,
I was doing istekhara for my marriage as the guy i love is ready to do Nikah but he is not wishing to disclose it to his family due to his mother. She will not agree as he belongs to Syed family. I did istekhara 3 days, 1st night i had a dream about him feeding people in some celebration we are doing, most probably our valima. The hint was like it was our valima and someone said that this is fine you can go ahead with this guy. A manly voice said that. I was thinking about the utensils he was serving food in, & again the manly voice said that this is fine too. 2nd day i had no dream, 3rd day also i had no dream. Can you please help me in telling if it works out for me as he is not disclosing this to his family for 3 to 4 years.
We both love each other. Please let me know if that indicates my istekhara goes well with him.
On the other side there is one more proposal and that guy is known by my family. He is my brother’s friend. He is divorced and asking to get married in Feb 2020 or March 2020 max. He is not much stabled financially & yes i am interested in the other guy i talked about earlier.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
May Almighty Allah grant you a suitable and compatible spouse. Aameen.
The purpose of istikharah is to seek good (طلب الخير) from Allah Ta’ala in whatever one intends to do. It is not necessary to see a dream to know the outcome of the Istikharah.
Istikharah works best when one has a balanced frame of mind and is not strongly inclined towards a specific decision beforehand.
You state that you love the man in reference. It is possible your istikharah was a reflection of your mind as you had already decided to marry the man. After performing Istikharah with a balanced and free mind, if your heart is inclined towards marrying the same man, then you should follow the direction of your heart’s inclination.
You also state you both love each other. If you love the man, you should follow the correct Islamic method and means to achieve your wish.
We advise you to discuss the issue with some responsible person in the family, perhaps an elderly reputable person to communicate and influence the man’s mother to get him married.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Muhammad I.V Patel
Checked and Approved by
Mufti Nabeel Valli
Darul Iftaa Mahmudiyyah
Lusaka, Zambia