Studying deen and rights of parents
|Fatwa #1002||Category: Miscellaneous||Country: United Kingdom||Date: 17th November 2023|
|Fatwa #1002||Date: 17th November 2023|
|Country: United Kingdom|
My name is Yahya, I’m from Scotland, UK. I am 19 and going to complete my hifz and Accountacy degree by May 2024 InshaAllah. Alhamdulillah I regularly go in jamaat and done 40 days in Pakistan this year. After graduating I would like to study the deen in a Madrassa as I have wanted to do for quite some time even before my chilla too. My question is please advise the right of my parents over me. I am the only child, Alhamdulilah we are a wealthy family and both my parents are middle aged and healthy. I would like to study in Pakistan because In Scotland there are no Darul ulooms, there are some in England but I would still be far away for a long time. My father is also a Jamaat sathi and he is fine with me studying InshaAllah but my mother is very attatched to me.
- Please advise regarding my parents rights.
- Any duas to increase my brainpower capability and memory
- Would you recommend studying in Raiwind madrassa or have any info about it.
- Any advice
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
We commend you on your desire to study deeni ilm. May Almighty Allah grant you beneficial ilm. Aameen.
Shari’ah has emphasised obedience to one’s parents. This is because parents hold a great favour over their children given that it is them to nurtured them when they were at their most vulnerable. Both the Quran and Hadith are replete with exhortations on obedience to one’s parents.
وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ حسنا
Translation: We have given mankind (emphatic) instructions concerning his/her parents to treat them kindly. (Surah Ankaboot. Verse 8)
وَقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعْبُدُوا إِلَّا إِيَّاهُ وَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أَوْ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلَا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قَوْلًا كَرِيمًا. وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ رَبِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا
Translation: Your Rabb has commanded that you worship only Him and that you treat your parents kindly. If any one of the two or both of them reaches old age with you, then do not even tell them “Oof!” and do not rebuke them. Speak gently with them. Lower for them the wings of humility out of compassion and say, “O my Rabb! Show mercy to them as they had (been merciful towards me when they) raised me when I was young.” (Surah Bani Israeel. Verse 23-24)
عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: مَا مِنْ وَلَدٍ بَارٍّ يَنْظُرُ نَظْرَةَ رَحْمَةٍ إِلَّا كَتَبَ اللهُ بِكُلِّ نَظْرَةٍ حَجَّةً مَبْرُورَةً، قَالُوا: وَإِنْ نَظَرَ كُلَّ يَوْمٍ مِائَةَ مَرَّةٍ؟ قَالَ: نَعَمْ، اللهُ أَكْبَرُ وَأَطْيَبُ
Translation: Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, no obedient child looks at his parents with mercy and humility except that Allah writes for him (the reward) an accepted hajj. They asked, even if he looks a hundred times daily? He replied: Yes, Allah is the Greatest and Most Pure.
The scholars have ruled that if a man intends to go for Jihad (which is not fardh ayn), he requires the permission of his parents. This shows the importance of the parents’ pleasure and consent. Their happiness is linked to one’s own blessings and comfort.
Your mother’s hesitance to send you away is natural. This is not an easy thing for your parents. It requires an immense sacrifice on their part.
We advise you to make mashwera with your parents and a reliable local scholar who your mother holds in high esteem. A suitable path would be to study either within Scotland (if there is a suitable madrassah) or go to England, which is close enough to come home regularly during the holidays. The local scholar can guide you when deciding which institute to go to.
As for duas to increase memory, you may refer to the following link.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Bilal Pandor
Mufti Muhammad IV Patel
Darul Iftaa Mahmudiyyah
7472 – أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو مَنْصُورٍ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الدَّامِغَانِيُّ، وَأَبُو الْحَسَنِ عَلِيُّ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْبَيْهَقِيُّ قَالَا: نا أَبُو بَكْرٍ الْإِسْمَاعِيلِيُّ، نا أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ الْحُسَيْنِ الْحَذَّاءُ، نا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ، نا زَافِرُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ، نا الْمُسْتَسْلِمُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ، عَنِ الْحَكَمِ بْنِ أَبَانَ، عَنْ عِكْرِمَةَ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ قَالَ: ” مَا مِنْ وَلَدٍ بَارٍّ يَنْظُرُ نَظْرَةَ رَحْمَةٍ إِلَّا كَتَبَ اللهُ بِكُلِّ نَظْرَةٍ حَجَّةً مَبْرُورَةً “، قَالُوا: وَإِنْ نَظَرَ كُلَّ يَوْمٍ مِائَةَ مَرَّةٍ؟ قَالَ: ” نَعَمْ، اللهُ أَكْبَرُ وَأَطْيَبُ “