Informing prospective spouse about my condition
| Fatwa #1006 | Category: Marriage & Divorce | Country: | Date: 9th November 2023 |
| Fatwa #1006 | Date: 9th November 2023 |
| Category: Marriage & Divorce | |
| Country: | |
Question
I was diagnosed with psoriasis 3 years back.When it initially came it was bad where my body was almost covered with it once.Upon taking the treatment biologics injections.it cleared rapidly in 2-3 months
Since Psoriasis is an autoimmune condition i have to keep it in control and according to Doctors it cannot be cured completely,But there are medications which can keep it in control.But i know few people who have cured from it(remission)
After this initial major outbreak, i was pretty much clear from then by the grace of Allah from past 3 years.
Only this year in 2023 it was a little bad for around 6 months where i was covered 5-8% of my body according to the doctor since i was off my medication for 1.5 years
When i was on medication i used to get few plaques during winters which covered around 3% of the body and they got cleared in summers in 2-4 months.Rest of the months i was 99.9% clear of it
Now i have started the medication again and it is in control now where i have around 1-2% of involvement and hoping it will be cleared in 1-2 months inshallah.I take injections once every month now
Other than this condition I am Healthy and normal and i also work by Gods grace.
I am planning to get married,Given my history of this condition should i inform my prospective spouse about this condition.
I feel nobody will be interested after i inform them about it.So i am not able to take a decision due to this.
Doctors told it is perfectly okay to get married living with this condition
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Respected Brother,
We make dua Allah grant you complete shifaa from your ailment.
Disease and sickness are a test from Allah. It is a means of elevating one’s status in the eyes of Allah and ultimately results in a higher status in Jannah. As such, your forbearance in the face of adversity is pleasing in the sight of Allah, and you can hope to receive rewards for it in the hereafter.
Marriage is a relationship that thrives on honesty. There is no greater hindrance to a healthy marriage than deceit and dishonesty.
You state that, with the grace of Allah, your condition is now much more manageable and is not bad. If you feel that your condition will not in any way hamper the rights of your future wife, then it is permissible not to disclose your condition. If your condition comes up again after marriage, Insha-Allah, by that time, as is normal between spouses, she will be supportive and help you through the sickness.
Having said that, to be upfront is still the better option as it leaves no room for future quarrels regarding the issue. Since your condition is also not an extreme, there is a higher chance of it being overlooked by a potential spouse. Our fate is predestined, and nothing can change that. Your spouse will come to you one way or the other.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Bilal Pandor
Concurred by
Mufti Nabeel Valli
Darul Iftaa Mahmudiyyah
Lusaka, Zambia