Marriage Istikhara
| Fatwa #1076 | Category: Marriage & Divorce | Country: Zambia | Date: 22nd April 2024 |
| Fatwa #1076 | Date: 22nd April 2024 |
| Category: Marriage & Divorce | |
| Country: Zambia | |
Question
Assalaamualaykum
I’m a 28 old female divorcee with a child (2yrs old). I met someone 7months ago who is married with 2 children and he is interested in marrying me.
However, my sister who i spoke to regarding this had objections over the fact he’s currently married. I have not spoken to any of my walis (father or brothers regarding this)
After giving it some thought I did istikhaara and my dreams were as follows:
1. I was staring at a bunch of keys for a very long time. The keys were big and rusted.
2. I was opening a gold and white box to show my father all the good things about the man that I’m interested in. This was a very short dream and it was as I was drifting to sleep.
I wanted your valuable advice in helping me understand the possible meanings of the dreams please.
As well as your priceless advice given my situation.
Answer
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
Sister in Islam,
May Almighty Allah grant you a suitable and compatible spouse. Aameen.
The purpose of istikharah is to seek good (طلب الخير) from Almighty Allah in whatever one intends to do. It is not necessary to see a dream to know the outcome of the Istikharah.
Istikharah works best when one has a balanced frame of mind and is not strongly inclined towards a specific decision beforehand.
Interpretation of dreams is an art and talent which Almighty Allah blesses only to some people. The Darul Iftaa does not interpret dreams.
Becoming a second wife should not be considered as something wrong. Our own history attests to the fact that polygamous marriages are supposed to be the norm and not the exception.
If you feel that the potential suitor is a good kind person, and your parents have vetted his background adequately, then simply being a second wife should not be the sole deterrent. Ofcourse, you will be well within your rights to refuse the offer if it is not what you personally want. However, if you are personally content with this, then with the blessings of your parents, you can make the decision.
You may refer to the links below to better understand istikhara.
https://daruliftaazambia.com/fatwa/?id=478
https://daruliftaazambia.com/fatwa/?id=582
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best
Mufti Bilal Pandor
Concurred by
Mufti Nabeel Valli
Darul Iftaa Mahmudiyyah
Lusaka, Zambia